Being Good to Neighbours

Neighbours Have the Right to Good Treatment

– Allah says, “Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the poor, the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful.”

(Qur’an 4:36)

 

– The Prophet (sallAllahu ‘alayhi was sallam) said, “Jibril, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, kept on recommending that I treat neighbours well until I thought that he would order me to make them heirs.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 101, 104 [Saheeh]; Bukhari 6014, 6015; Abu Dawood 5151; Tirmidhi 1942)

 

– “Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day should be good to his neighbours. Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his guest. Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day should say what is good or be silent.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 102 [Saheeh]; Bukhari 6136, 6018, 6475)

 

– “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbour. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women.”

(Bukhari 5185, 5186)

 

– “By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe!” It was said, “Who is that, O Allah’s Messenger?” He said, “That person whose neighbour does not feel safe from his evil.”

(Bukhari 6016)

 

It Is Worse to Commit a Sin Against the Neighbour than Other People

– The Messenger of Allah asked his Companions about fornication and they said, “It is unlawful. Allah and His Messenger have made it unlawful.” He said, “It is less serious for a man to fornicate with ten women than for him to fornicate with his neighbour’s wife.” Then he asked them about stealing. They replied, “It is unlawful. Allah and His Messenger have made it unlawful.” He said, “It is less serious for a man to steal from ten houses than it is for him to steal from his neighbour’s house.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 103 [Saheeh])

 

– The Prophet was asked, “Which is the biggest sin?” He replied, “To set up rivals to Allah by worshipping others though He alone has created you… [Then] To kill your child lest it should share your food… [Then] To commit adultery with the wife of your neighbour.”

(Bukhari 4013, 4477, 6001, 6811, 7520; Tirmidhi 3182, 3183; Nasai 4014, 4015; Abu Dawood 2310)

 

The Nearer Neighbour Has More Right

– ‘A’isha said, “I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, I have two neighbours. To whom should I give my gifts?’ He replied, ‘To the one whose door is nearer to you.’”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 107 [Saheeh]; Bukhari 2259, 6020; Abu Dawood 5155)

 

Feed the Neighbour

– The Prophet said, “A man is not a believer who fills his stomach while his neighbour is hungry.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 112 [Saheeh])

 

– The Prophet said, “…When you cook a stew, put a lot of water in it and then go and see the people of a neighbouring house and give them a reasonable amount of it…”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 113 [Saheeh]; Tirmidhi 1833)

 

– The Prophet said, “…If you cook some stew, make a lot of it and fulfil your duty to your neighbours (or divide it among your neighbours).”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 114 [Saheeh]; Ibn Majah 3362)

 

Be the Best

–  The Prophet said, “The best of companions in the sight of Allah Almighty is the best of them towards his companion, and the best of neighbours in the sight of Allah is the best of them towards his neighbour.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 115 [Saheeh]; Tirmidhi 1944)

 

Be A Cause of Happiness, Not Evil

– The Prophet said, “Part of the happiness of a Muslim man includes a spacious dwelling, righteous neighbour and a good mount.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 116 [Hasan lighayrih])

 

– “Seek refuge with Allah from a bad neighbour in one’s permanent abode, for one’s neighbour in the desert will change.”

(Nasai 5502 [Hasan])

 

– “Oh Allah, I seek refuge with you from an evil neighbour in a permanent home, for a neighbour in the desert can be changed.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 117 [Hasan])

 

The One Who Causes His Neighbour to Move Due to Bad Treatment is Destroyed

– The Prophet said, “There is no man who wrongs his neighbour to the extent that he forces him until he makes him leave his home who is not destroyed.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 127 [Saheeh])

 

Killing Neighbours is a Sign of the Hour

– The Prophet said, “The Final Hour will not come until a man kills his neighbour, his brother and his father.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 118 [Hasan])

 

The Neighbour Who was Not Treated Good Will Complain to Allah on the Day of Judgement

– Ibn ‘Umar said, “There was a time when no one was more entitled to a person’s money than his Muslim brother. Now people love their dirhams and dinars more than their Muslim brother. I heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘How many a neighbour will be brought together with his neighbour on the Day of Rising! He will say, ‘Lord, this man closed his door to me and refused to show me common kindness!’’”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 111 [Hasan lighayrih])

 

The Punishment for being Bad to Neighbours and the Reward for Being Good

– The Prophet was asked, “Messenger of Allah! A certain woman prays in the night, fasts in the day, acts and gives charity, but injures her neighbours with her tongue.” The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “There is no good in her. She is one of the people of the Fire.”

They said, “Another woman prays the prescribed prayers and gives bits of curd as charity and does not injure anyone.” The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “She is one of the people of the Garden.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 119 [Saheeh])

 

– “A person whose neighbours are not safe from his evil will not enter the Garden.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 121 [Saheeh])

 

Give Neighbours Gifts and Don’t Disdain Whatever You Are Given

– The Prophet said, “Give gifts and you will love one another.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 594 [Hasan])

 

– “Believing women! Do not let any of you women disdain her female neighbour’s gift, even if it is only a burnt sheep’s hoof.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 122 [Saheeh]; Bukhari 2566, 2595)

 

– “Muslim women! Muslim women! A woman should not disdain her female neighbour’s gift, even if it is only a sheep’s hoof.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 123 [Saheeh])

 

– “It is not permissible for a man to give a gift then take it back, except what a father gives to his child.”

(Ibn Majah 2377 [Saheeh])

 

It Is Permissible to Publicly Complain About a Bad Neighbour

– A man said, “Messenger of Allah, I have a neighbour who does me harm.” He said, “Go and take your things out into the road.” He took his things out into the road. People gathered around him and asked, “What’s the matter?” He replied, “A neighbour of mine injures me and I mentioned it to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. He told me, ‘Take your things out into the road.’” They began to say, “O Allah, curse him! O Allah, disgrace him!” When the man heard that, he came out to him and said, “Go back to your home. By Allah, I will not harm you.”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 124 [Hasan Saheeh]; Abu Dawood 5153)

 

– A man complained to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, about his neighbour. The Prophet said, “Take your bags and put them in the road and whoever passes them will curse him.” Everyone who passed him began to curse that neighbour. Then he went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, “How many people I met!” He said, “The curse of Allah is on top of their curse!” Then he told the one who had complained, “You have enough,” or words to that effect.

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 125 [Hasan Saheeh])

 

All of the Above Also Applies to Treating Non-Muslim Neighbours Good

– Mujahid said, “a sheep was slaughtered for ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr. He asked his slave, ‘Have you given any to our Jewish neighbour? Have you given any to our Jewish neighbour? I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘Jibril kept on recommending that I treat my neighbours well until I thought that he would order me to treat them as my heirs.’’”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 105 [Saheeh]; Tirmidhi 1943)

 

– Mujahid said, “I was with ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr while his slave was skinning a sheep. He said, ‘Boy! When you finish, start with the Jewish neighbour.’ A man there exclaimed, ‘Jewish? May Allah correct you!’ He replied, ‘I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, recommend that we treat our neighbours well until we feared (or we thought) that he would order us to make them our heirs.’”

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 128 [Saheeh])

Why Should You Grow the Beard?

You should grow the beard for the following reasons:

 

  1. It is Obligatory

– The Prophet (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “My Lord has commanded me to grow my beard and trim my moustache” (At-Tabari [Hasan])

– The Prophet said, “Cut the moustaches short and leave the beard.” (Bukhari 5893, Muslim 52)

 

  1. Acquire the Love of Allah by Following the Example of His Messenger

– The Prophet Muhammad had a thick beard. (An-Nasa’i 5234 [Saheeh])

– Allah says, “There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.” (Qur’an 33:21)

– Allah says, “Say, [O Muhammad], ‘If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.’” (Qur’an 3:31)

 

  1. It is Part of the Fitrah

– The Prophet said, “Ten things are part of the fitrah: Trimming the moustache, letting the beard grow…” (Muslim 56)

– Allah says, “So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth. [Adhere to] the fitrah of Allah upon which He has created [all] people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah. That is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.” (Qur’an 30:30)

 

  1. Be Different and Distinguishable from non-Muslims

– The Prophet said, “Be different from the idolaters: Trim your moustaches and let your beards grow.” (Muslim 54)

– The Prophet said, “Trim the moustache and let the beard grow, differ from the Zoroastrians.” (Muslim 55)

 

  1. Avoid the Curse of Allah’s Messenger

– The Prophet cursed the men who imitate women and the women who imitate men. (Ibn Majah 1904 [Saheeh]; Abu Dawood 4097; Tirmidhi 3013)

– The Prophet cursed effeminate men (mukhannathan) and women who imitated men, saying: “Put them out of your houses, and put so-and-so out (i.e. the effeminate men)” (Abu Dawood 4912 [Saheeh])

 

Further Reading

– The Beard Between the Salaf & Khalaf by Muhammad Mustafa Al-Jibaly.

Can Muslims Force People to Accept Islam?

Muslims are not allowed to force people to enter into Islam because:

 

  1. It is Clearly Prohibited

– Allah says, “There is no compulsion in religion. Verily, the Right Path has become distinct from the wrong path.” (Qur’an 2:256)

 

  1. People are Given the Choice to Believe or Not

– Allah says, “And say, ‘The truth is from your Lord, so whoever wills – he should believe; and whoever wills – he should disbelieve.’” (Qur’an 18:29)

 

  1. It is Allah Who Makes People Enter Islam

– Allah says, “Indeed, you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills. And He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided.” (Qur’an 28:56)

– “And had your Lord willed, those on earth would have believed – all of them entirely. Then, would you compel the people in order that they become believers?” (Qur’an 10:99)

 

  1. Muslims Can Only Give Da’wah (i.e. Convey the Message of Islam)

– Allah says, “Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided.” (Qur’an 16:125)

– “Say, ‘O mankind, the truth has come to you from your Lord, so whoever is guided is only guided for [the benefit of] his soul, and whoever goes astray only goes astray [in violation] against it. And I am not over you a manager.’” (Qur’an 10:108)

– “There has come to you enlightenment from your Lord. So whoever will see does so for [the benefit of] his soul, and whoever is blind [does harm] against it. And [say], ‘I am not a guardian over you.’” (Qur’an 6:104)

– “And if you [people] deny [the message] – already nations before you have denied. And there is not upon the Messenger except [the duty of] clear notification.” (Qur’an 29:18)

 

  1. Muslims are Commanded to Respond to Those Who Reject the Message of Islam in the Following Ways

– Allah says, “And if they deny you, then say, ‘For me are my deeds, and for you are your deeds. You are disassociated from what I do, and I am disassociated from what you do.’” (Qur’an 10:41)

– “And when they [i.e., the Muslims] hear ill speech, they turn away from it and say, ‘For us are our deeds, and for you are your deeds. Peace be upon you; we seek not the ignorant.’” (Qur’an 28:55)

– “Say, ‘O disbelievers, I do not worship what you worship. Nor are you worshippers of what I worship. Nor will I be a worshipper of what you worship. Nor will you be worshippers of what I worship. For you is your religion, and for me is my religion.’” (Qur’an 109:1-6)

 

  1. In Islamic States, Jizyah is Taken from Non-Muslims So That They Can Practise Their Religions

5.1. People of the Book (Jews and Christians):

– Allah says, “Fight those who do not believe in Allah or in the Last Day and who do not consider unlawful what Allah and His Messenger have made unlawful and who do not adopt the religion of truth from those who were given the Scripture – [fight] until they give the jizyah willingly while they are humbled.” (Qur’an 9:29)

 

5.2. Magians/Zoroastrians:

– Abdur-Rahman bin `Auf testified that Allah’s Messenger had taken the Jizya from the Magians of Hajar. (Bukhari 3156, 3157, Abu Dawood 3043)

 

5.3. Pagans/Idolaters:

– Buraydah narrated: When the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) appointed commanders for an army or expedition, he would advise them personally to fear Allah, may He be exalted, and to be good to those of the Muslims who were under their command. Then he said: “Fight in the name of Allah… When you meet your enemy among the polytheists, offer them three options, and whichever one they choose, accept it from them and refrain from (fighting) them. Invite them to Islam and if they respond, then accept it from them and refrain from (fighting) them. Then invite them to migrate from their land to the land of the Muhaajireen (Madinah), and tell them that if they do that, they will have the same rights and duties as the muhaajiroon have. If they refuse to leave, then tell them that they are like the Muslim Bedouin and subject to the same rulings as the believers, but they will have no share of the booty and spoils, unless they strive in jihad alongside the Muslims. If they refuse, then ask them to pay jizyah. If they respond, then accept it from them and refrain from (fighting) them….” (Muslim 1731)

Why Should You Give Da’wah?

You should give Da’wah because Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala) and His Messenger (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) have commanded it, the benefits obtained from it and the negatives of not giving Da’wah.

 

  1. The Command

– Allah says, “Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided.” (Qur’an 16:125)

– “And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful.” (3:104)

– “So do not obey the disbelievers, and strive against them with it (i.e. the Qur’an) a great striving.” (Qur’an 25:52)

– “For every religion We have appointed rites which they perform. So, let the disbelievers not contend with you over the matter but invite them to your Lord. Indeed, you are upon straight guidance.” (Qur’an 22:67)

– “And never let them avert you from the verses of Allah after they have been revealed to you. And invite [people] to your Lord. And never be of those who associate others with Allah.” (Qur’an 28:87)

– “So to that [religion of Allah] invite, and remain on a right course as you are commanded and do not follow their inclinations but say, ‘I have believed in what Allah has revealed of the Qur’an, and I have been commanded to do justice among you. Allah is our Lord and your Lord. For us are our deeds, and for you your deeds. There is no [need for] argument between us and you. Allah will bring us together, and to Him is the [final] destination.’” (Qur’an 42:15)

– The Prophet said, “Convey from me, even if it be an Ayah (one verse)…” (Tirmidhi 2669 [Saheeh])

– The Prophet said, “…he who amongst you sees something abominable should modify it with the help of his hand; and if he has not strength enough to do it, then he should do it with his tongue, and if he has not strength enough to do it, (even) then he should (abhor it) from his heart, and that is the least of faith.” (Muslim 49)

 

  1. The Benefits of Giving Da’wah

2.1. Acquire the Love of Allah by Following the Example of His Messengers

– Allah says, “There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.” (Qur’an 33:21)

– “O Messenger, announce that which has been revealed to you from your Lord, and if you do not, then you have not conveyed His message. And Allah will protect you from the people. Indeed, Allah does not guide the disbelieving people.” (Qur’an 5:67)

– “Say, ‘This is my way; I invite to Allah with insight, I and those who follow me. And exalted is Allah; and I am not of those who associate others with Him.’” (Qur’an 12:108)

– “And We certainly sent into every nation a messenger, [saying], ‘Worship Allah and avoid Taghut.’ And among them were those whom Allah guided, and among them were those upon whom error was [deservedly] decreed. So proceed through the earth and observe how was the end of the deniers.” (Qur’an 16:36)

– “Say, [O Muhammad], ‘If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.’” (Qur’an 3:31)

 

2.2. Become the Best

– Allah says, “And who is better in speech than one who invites to Allah and does righteousness and says, ‘Indeed, I am of the Muslims.’” (Qur’an 41:33)

– “You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah. If only the People of the Scripture had believed, it would have been better for them. Among them are believers, but most of them are defiantly disobedient.” (Qur’an 3:110)

 

2.3. Everyone is in Loss, Except Those Who Give Da’wah

– Allah says, “By time, Indeed, mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.” (Qur’an 103:1-3)

 

2.4. The Reward for Da’wah is Better than Anything in the World

– The Prophet said, “…by Allah, if one man is guided on the right path (i.e. converted to Islam) through you, it would be better for you than (a great number of) red camels.” (Bukhari 3701)

 

2.5. Guide Someone to Good, Get an Equal Amount of Good for Everything They Do

– The Prophet said, “Whoever calls people to true guidance, will have a reward equal to that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their reward in the slightest. And whoever calls people to misguidance, will have a (burden of) sin equal to that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their sins in the slightest.” (Ibn Majah 206; Tirmidhi 2674; Abu Dawood 4609; Muslim 2674)

– “One who guides to something good has a reward similar to that of its doer.” (Muslim 1893)

 

2.6. The Prophet Prayed Specifically for the Da’i

– The Prophet said, “May Allah gladden a man who hears something from us, so he conveys it as he heard it. Perhaps the one it is conveyed to is more understanding than the one who heard it.” (Tirmidhi 2657 [Saheeh]; similar hadeeth in Ibn Majah 232)

 

2.7. Save People from the Fire

– Allah says, “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” (Qur’an 66:6)

 

  1. The Punishment for Not Giving Da’wah

3.1. The Curse of Allah

– Allah says, “Indeed, those who conceal what We sent down of clear proofs and guidance after We made it clear for the people in the Scripture – those are cursed by Allah and cursed by those who curse” (Qur’an 2:159)

 

3.2. A Bridle of Fire

– The Prophet said, “He who is asked something he knows and conceals it will have a bridle of fire put on him on the Day of Resurrection.” (Abu Dawood 3658 [Hasan]; Tirmidhi 2649)

 

3.3. Allah Only Saved Those Who Gave Da’wah

– Allah says, “And ask them about the town that was by the sea – when they transgressed in [the matter of] the sabbath – when their fish came to them openly on their sabbath day, and the day they had no sabbath they did not come to them. Thus did We give them trial because they were defiantly disobedient.

And when a community among them said, ‘Why do you advise [or warn] a people whom Allah is [about] to destroy or to punish with a severe punishment?’ they [the advisors] said, ‘To be absolved before your Lord and perhaps they may fear Him.’

And when they forgot that by which they had been reminded, We saved those who had forbidden evil and seized those who wronged, with a wretched punishment, because they were defiantly disobeying.” (Qur’an 7:163-165)

 

3.4. Allah Will Send Down a Punishment and Not Respond to Supplications

– The Prophet said, “By the One in Whose Hand is my soul! Either you command good and forbid evil, or Allah will soon send upon you a punishment from Him, then you will call upon Him, but He will not respond to you.” (Tirmidhi 2169 [Hasan])

– “Command good and forbid evil, before you call and you are not answered.” (Ibn Majah 4004 [Hasan])

 

Further Reading

– Words of Advice Regarding Da’wah by Shaykh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez ibn ‘Abdullah ibn Baaz.

– The Islamic Awakening by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih Al-‘Uthaymin.